Change the date, we are no longer getting married on June 20, 2020. I had dreamt of this date for so long, long before Alex even proposed. Haven’t we all? Don’t all little girls dream of their wedding day for years before it actually happening? As if planning a wedding isn’t stressful enough, having to change the date, and then re-plan everything is enough to drive a gal insane.
Alex proposed to me in October of 2018, so we have been engaged for almost two years now. The first thought that came to mind when someone first mentioned postponing the wedding was, “Nope, no way. I have been waiting long enough and I am just ready to be his wife already!” To be honest, I hadn’t taken postponing the wedding seriously until April approached, and it became evident that this “quarantine” would be around much longer than anticipated. Around this time, I started losing sleep. I started crying for no reason in the middle of the day. I either ate everything in site or barely had an appetite. My anxiety had skyrocketed at the thought of postponing the wedding, and the real potential of that happening. I knew that other brides were going through it, and that many brides had a much shorter notice than I had, and might not even get the chance to postpone. I knew that things could be much worse, but I couldn’t help feeling this way.
I had resisted changing my date for so long, until it became inevitable. It wasn’t until we changed our wedding date, now set for June of 2021, that I started focusing on what is actually important here: our relationship, our love for one another, and our marriage. Alex will be here a year from now, and so will I, more than likely loving him way more than I love him this year (although I find that impossible). So, I don’t get my dream day on June 20 of this year, but next June that dream day will be so much sweeter. Our love for each other will be so much deeper (especially after spending so much quality time together in this quarantine!), and the day will feel like an even bigger celebration.
For my fellow brides who have postponed, cancelled, or are having zoom weddings, remember that you are not alone. It is perfectly okay to mourn the loss of the day that you had spent so much time planning and dreaming of. It is okay to feel sad and angry. Yes, there are a lot of sad things happening in the world right now, but you are allowed to mourn the loss of your day. However, promise me this: that you will focus on what is truly important: the relationship. Spend this time and the extra time leading to your new wedding date loving each other more deeply than you ever could have imagined. Spend this time getting to know your partner better than you ever thought you could. Spend this time having conversations about hopes and dreams that you have for your future together. Remember that the love is not cancelled. The love will always remain.
A note about our Change the Dates: we created our Change the Dates through Minted, just as we had our Save the Dates. This post is in no way sponsored by Minted, but I want to share what a lovely experience we had working with them. They allow you to custom design any sort of invitation you may need, are quick to deliver, offer free addressing, and offer their services at a great price. If you are in a position of sending Change the Dates, I highly suggest working with Minted!
